I am going to post a rant about the LA Weight Loss ivillage messageboard. That place is pissing me off.
I started going to that blog when I started LAWL because I thought it would be a great community where I could find others doing what I am doing, and to get tips and inspiration.
There is inspiration. There are women who have lost 100 pounds or more which is just phenomenal.
What is ticking me off is the attitude these women have. They act like they are so perfect! There have been a lot of new people on the board just starting out and are writing about their difficulties and mistakes. These women are treating them like crap! One woman posted something to the "newbies" saying that they could never make it through the program if this is what they were doing. Well everyone is human!!! Everyone makes mistakes. But a lot of the older members think they are superior and obviously have forgotten that weight loss does not come easy to everyone. I felt bad for this one poster who is obviously having a difficult time losing weight and is getting frustrated. They are not offering her help, only making her feel like crap because she is "failing" in their eyes.
One woman today posted a message about whether or not she could sell her LA lite bars. Her post was later gone and someone asked why it had been removed. This woman posted "she probably is quitting the program and was embarrassed so she removed her post". Now why would anyone assume that? Maybe this woman just didnt like the taste of those lites and didnt want to waste money. It actually turns out her post was removed by ivillage because it was considered "solicitation" which I dont think she was trying to do. But why would you automatically assume that someone is failing? Such a nasty thing to say! Imagine that woman and how that probably made her feel. Even if she was quitting the program, that is her right!
They are also making anyone who isnt losing 2 or more pounds a week like they are doing something wrong. Me included for a while. One woman asked me what I was doing wrong, that I was in my 10th week (at the time) and had only lost like 11 pounds or something. Im like, nothing!! I stood up for one woman today because they were picking on her slow weight loss and I said that everyone loses weight at their own rates. Just because people dont lose at the same rate means they are doing something wrong.
I realized today that this messageboard is completely unhealthy. I get no support there and always feel ashamed to even go on there if I have gained or made a mistake. Everyone makes mistakes. If we are really doing this for the long run, then its to be expected we make mistakes. We need to learn from them.
I get more support out of reading all of your blogs than you will ever know. I see so many of you going through what I am going through, and the last thing I could think of would be to tell you that you are failing or that you need to be perfect. you dont need to hear that, it doesnt help anything. So thank you to everyone who reads me and to all those that I read. We may all be losing weight in different ways, but at least we are all encouraging, inspiring, and positive and that is the kind of support that I need.