tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7016171802074533735.post707084511984047825..comments2023-11-03T07:37:06.569-05:00Comments on Setting Her Free: The Fight Part 2Heatherhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02938217552213908906noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7016171802074533735.post-15101341365188497532007-10-31T12:24:00.000-05:002007-10-31T12:24:00.000-05:00I'm so sorry that he is having a hard time accepti...I'm so sorry that he is having a hard time accepting change in your life. Have you sat down with him and explained your goals and what you are aiming for? Tell him you are doing it for better health long term and to look and feel better with yourself. I really think that subconsciously he thinks you changing could result in a change in your relationship. Men need reassuring sometimes too.Diana Swallow https://www.blogger.com/profile/06617104284642930333noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7016171802074533735.post-31171504550710777652007-10-30T09:53:00.000-05:002007-10-30T09:53:00.000-05:00I know what you mean about bad choices around ever...I know what you mean about bad choices around every corner. It seems like you have to work so hard just to find the healthy things!Leighhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09046089933126006091noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7016171802074533735.post-18854909571268554302007-10-29T23:09:00.000-05:002007-10-29T23:09:00.000-05:00Sometimes, it takes a while for things to stick. Y...Sometimes, it takes a while for things to stick. Your boyfriend has habits with you, just as you have habits with food. Changing for him is as stressful as changing is for you. I mean, he's used to being able to share pizza and popcorn and whatever with you, and now he can't. So, he feels denied. And you are trying to change, and his wanting to keep things the same feels like he's denying your need. So, both of you are at loggerheads, and it makes sense. It does.<BR/><BR/>However, your health is a bigger issue than his comfort. Sorry, but it is. So, a few good solid talks with him, a few reconditioning efforts (sorry to say it, but a lot like how one trains dogs, yikes) are necessary. When he asks you to have another drink, "Say, no, I can't. For the sake of my health, I need to stop with one. Please don't ask me again if I want a drink. It hurts me when I'm tempted by someone I love."<BR/><BR/>Maybe that will make him mad, but he needs to accept that changes are NECESSARY.<BR/><BR/>Also, you need to find a nice compromise. Maybe when he feels like pizza, you can come up with an eatable pizza recipe you can make at home. Make his half the way he wants (or his personal pizza). Make yours with weighed/measured and vegetables. That way, you can both eat it and he can get that social thing with you that he obviously needs--to share the joy of eating.<BR/><BR/>Or just ask him that he eat pizza for lunch with friends or coworkers, so that he can eat something else when you two have dinner together, something that's friendly to your eating plan.<BR/><BR/>It's not going to be easy. But if there's love, it will work out. People who love you will compromise. Selfish people don't. I'm assuming he's not selfish, just hurt, like you.<BR/><BR/>Best of luck with that.<BR/><BR/>And hey, pizza is a trigger food for me, so boy, do I know the issue well.<BR/><BR/>The PrincessAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7016171802074533735.post-24596574195684692382007-10-29T20:37:00.000-05:002007-10-29T20:37:00.000-05:00What I have told a friend of mine, and have to tel...What I have told a friend of mine, and have to tell myself at times, is that there are going to be challenges for the rest of our lives. It's not that the world is out to get us, it's just how the world is for everyone. And the population is divided into the people that indulge responsibly, and those that don't. We will learn to be in the first group, and it is hard, but the harder the battle, the better the reward.Tealehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01994083331228276203noreply@blogger.com